Relationship Astrology

Relationship Astrology: How to Use Astrology to Better Understand Your Partner

Last Updated on May 1, 2024 by Avia

Relationship astrology can be a guiding point on how you can understand your partner better, and manage your relationship more effectively.  If people can use astrology to improve themselves, then astrology can most certainly be used to improve one’s personal relationships.

How to Start Using Astrology for Your Relationships

So, where will you start? It would be wise to start by running your partner’s birth chart, also known as the natal chart in astrology.  To get this, you need their date of birth, time of birth, and place of birth.  If you don’t have their time of birth, read this

It doesn’t matter if your partner does not believe in astrology. Regardless of their personal beliefs, the cosmos will always have something to say or present about someone, especially on the day that they were born. If you and your partner do not know your birth chart placements, you can use free online generators like

You’ll need to log in or start an account, after which you’ll enter your and your partner’s information to cast your astrology charts.  From there, you can run relationship astrology reports as well as compare your astrology charts to assess compatibility.  Casting both your astrology charts will give you the complete lineup of cosmic bodies that were on the move when you and your partner were born. 

Relationship Astrology
Relationship Astrology

The Ascendant in Relationship Astrology

The first thing that you should look for is your partner’s rising sign, also known as the ascendant. This is the zodiac sign that was “rising” as it was on the horizon the moment that they were brought into this world. You can tell a lot about your partner from their ascendant sign because it influences the way a person presents themselves, and how they act in public. In a sense, this is the mask that they want other people to believe in. 

For example, your partner’s ascendant is on Capricorn. This means that they are seen by everyone as responsible, reliable, and focused on their tasks- a bit more focused than they would even like to admit. You can then compare it to your rising sign and identify where you and your partner jive or clash.  This comparison can show you how you both act around each other in public too.

Moon Signs in Relationships

The next thing you should take a closer look at is your and your partner’s moon sign. As opposed to the ascendant, it represents a person’s inner self.  Moon signs shed light on you and your partner’s fears and inhibitions.  It can also clarify inner motives and even the “dark side” which they rarely ever let anyone see. 

Here is an example: Let’s say your moon sign is in Pisces. It means that you generally go with the flow, and you don’t have any overtly negative traits except maybe for being a bit too cavalier when it comes to how you handle certain problems. On the other hand, your partner’s moon sign is in Scorpio. This can be quite thrilling, yet also at the same time something worth looking out for. Individuals with their moon sign in Scorpio can sometimes get obsessive and possessive. Left unchecked, moon signs in Scorpio may become toxic partners.

As a Pisces, you may not want to confront this behavior. You might not want to deal with the problems that result from this negative trait. It is then crucial that you and your significant other learn how to manage this. Not doing so may result in even worse problems if not faced with honesty and dealt with.

Relationship Astrology
Relationship Astrology

Other Aspects to Consider in Relationship Astrology

Now that the ascendant and moon signs have been established, you can then take a deeper dive into the more complicated parts of your birth charts. The next step is to take a closer look at your Mercury, Mars, and Venus placements.

As said earlier, the cosmos is constantly on the move. Since the zodiac signs are based on the stars, they are more or less permanent. But the planets are moving all the time. When they interact with other celestial bodies, they take on a different meaning for every person’s life.

Mercury’s Influence

The first of these three planets is Mercury. It is known as the planet of communication and determines how a person expresses themselves with their partner.  The placement of Mercury in your partner’s chart will clarify how they communicate and resolve problems. For instance, if a person’s Mercury is in Leo, then they are likely to be very open with their communication! They may also send you updates all the time, and give you the verbal reassurance that you need.

Mars and Your Partnership

The second planet is Mars. Most people associate it with aggressiveness, but in terms of relationships, it can also mean how they view sex and intimacy. If your partner’s Mars is in Scorpio, then you might as well expect that they are very amorous, and may even appreciate erotic pleasures in your relationship. They will be unafraid to try out new things in the bedroom. Conversely, Mars in Virgo indicates a willingness to romantically please a partner, but perhaps not as adventurously as Mars in Scorpio.

Venus and Relationship Astrology

The last planet to look out for is Venus. It is the overview of how a person is as a lover, and how they will approach their relationships as a whole. For example, if a person’s Venus is in Taurus, you’re in luck.  This placement typically ensures that your partner is known to be committed, loving, and unafraid to show their feelings. It also goes without saying that their ruling planet is Venus herself, so you pretty much scored yourself a good lover overall.

Relationship Astrology
Relationship Astrology

Putting it All Together and Synastry

With this information, you can now have a way to understand your partner even better than before. If you want an even deeper way of understanding your significant other, you can opt to do synastry.

Synastry is a way of overlapping your birth chart with that of your partner’s and calculating the distances between cosmic bodies.  This practice in relationship astrology offers an in-depth view of how your relationship will go. You don’t have to worry too much about interpreting these, though, as again, there are online resources available that can do synastry reading for you. And, if you prefer, you and your partner can always opt to consult a professional astrologer who can help you interpret your relationship astrology charts.

Closing Thoughts

With astrology at hand, you can understand your partner better. As you harmonize your birth chart with theirs, you can slowly build a relationship that is strong and factors in each of your individual selves. You can also better understand your personality similarities and differences, which gives you the advantage to improve your relationship.

Just be aware of the fact that astrology alone does not determine the strength and longevity of your relationship with your significant other. You may have a synastry that blends well with your partner, but without daily commitment, communication, and devotion – that synastry won’t go far. Conversely, so many people may have contradicting birth charts with their partners but have made created amazing relationships because they work on their partnership by employing assets such as honesty and mutual respect.

Just as astrology helps people become aware of their deeper selves, it can also assist in making relationships better than they were before. It is never absolute and never claimed to be. The future of the bonds that you have with people that you love is in your hands, so make sure to do what is best for you and them.

Author’s BioDavid Thomas is a professional writer at Trusted Astrology. With more than 10 years of experience with astrology, David is a trusted resource to help you with astrological analysis and interpretation.

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